WHAT’S YOUR BIGGEST PROBLEM IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

The poll results are in for “What’s Your Biggest Problem In Your Relationship”.

In top position is Communication 41%.                           

Coming in a close second is Sex at 35%.

Then there is a dramatic drop to Money 9%, Other 8%, Infidelity at 5% and last, 2% for Children problems.
There you have it, the leading cause for relationship problems being the inability to communicate effectively.

Ineffective communication is also a major player in the 2nd Poll Position of Sex problems.

To find out how you can improve your relationship situation to one where love and happiness replace the top polling positions, click here.

Shele & Michael.

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THE SECRET KINGDOM  A STATE OF MIND

Thinking about it, happiness is not what it seems.  More and more men, women, teens, even children are stressed.  Is there a secret to happiness that keeps eluding so many of us?

The secret may be that we need to learn how to be happy, and then a whole kingdom of simple pleasures will open up to us.

A kingdom of pleasure… I’d be in on that!

Shele

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ABORTION VERSUS MOTHERHOOD

You could find yourself in a situation when all of a sudden there is choice to make.  Yes, I’m
speaking of making a decision between abortion and motherhood.  Many women interviewed for The
Voice of Australian Women Survey, are feeling increasing pressure financially of having children.  Two out of five women who have terminated a pregnancy feel that abortion is validated because they were not in a financial position to have a child.  This concern is being echoed in more and more
younger women.

There is an rise in the number of women saying that abortion is an absolute right. In 1980, 62% indicated an absolute yes.  In 2007, 69% indicated an absolute yes.

There is a significant drop in the number of women saying that abortion should only be considered under certain circumstances, like when there is a medical threat to a woman’s life or rape.  In 1980, 32% gave a nod to this question, whilst in 2007, only 26% agreed.

Due to the complex nature of this sexual issue, more than one reason for abortion was given.
Below are the statistics for the main reasons for having an abortion.

3% indicated abortion due to being raped.

13% indicated that they had a child/children already and did
not wish to have anymore.

14% indicated that it was a medical necessity.

39% indicated that they were not in a financial position to
have this child.

41% indicated that they were not in the right relationship.

45% felt they were too young to have a baby.

Check out http://www.standupgirl.com where young women can talk freely about unexpected pregnancy.

Shele

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SEMI-NAKED, SKINNY MODELS IN SEXUAL POSES DAMAGING TO TEENAGERS

Good heavens, teens sexuality is making headlines yet again.  This time the music industry’s quality control has been targeted as the leading delegate for pressing the little red button marked “self-identity annihilator.”

There are concerns for children and teens being exposed to sexualized imagery within their environment on a regular and consistent basis as having damaging consequences to these children and teens mental health.

Acting Prime Minister for Australia, Julia Gillard has stated that parents should take responsibility. “It always concerns me when the images of very young people or children are sexualized. I think a childhood should be a childhood that should be replicated in our media and in the way in which we live. We should let boys and girls grow up with all the special innocence that childhood has.”

Bollocks! Let’s take off the rose colored glasses and look at things clearly.

Media is portraying the way in which we live.  Childhood is big business with corporations making a killing financially by marketing sex to children and teenagers, and we the consumer, greedily lap it up and then go looking for more, fueling the very situation that is causing harm. Childhood innocence was compromised as soon as we, societies individuals bought into it.

This marketing strategy can be seen in childrens and teens fashion just as much as on the television screen.  Choices in girls summer shoes is getting slimmer as the heel heights keep elevating in younger and younger age brackets to the extent that a designer has created “death” heels for babies. Sure, they collapse under their weight as they stand, but think about it for a moment, is it really that cute?

We the people are clever, pragmatic and capable, yet as a society we prefer to keep passing the buck until it comes right back to us and gives us a slap in the face. Only at this point do we make a loud noise, and hover around in the background waiting for someone else to do something, anything, even a bandaid is suffice.

The problem with bandaids is, they fall off and expose the wound again and again until measures are taken to heal it. Instead of  expecting the bandaid to stick, lets get in and clean up the rotting mess that we, as individuals have created.  Yes, this sexual issue that is affecting our children and teens is one of them.

Shele & Michael.

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INNER SPACE MEETS OUTER SPACE

Each evening when we are outdoors, our children will be drawn to the night sky. The universe with its sparkle of the twinkling stars, the glow of the moon, the depth of blackness that seems to stretch on forever.

Space.

“What’s out there?”

“Why does the moon look like that?”

Our children have so many questions about space – outer space. They are not the only ones. Mankind around the world strives to find the answers to all of their questions about the universe through space exploration.

Outer space we can visibly see when we gaze overhead. Inner space is just as mysterious, yet not as readily seen by the naked eye.

When we stand there, with our heads tilted back, looking out into the universe, we are standing at the centre of our own universe, one of inner space. Imagine for a moment that everyone you see around you is inside a bubble. This bubble represents their universe. Look at your reflection in a mirror and picture that you are in a bubble – your universe.

These bubbles edges are soft and pliable. They move and wobble with your body’s movements.

Your universe and my universe co-exist simultaneously and are contracting and expanding with energy. When you and I interact our universes expand to share the same space. Those soft, pliable outer edges of the bubbles around us are touching, then, in an instant have merged into one large bubble with us both inside. When our interaction has ended, our universes contract. The bubbles separate and become individual once more.

When we look at ourselves and other people from this perspective, we can see how our universes are in continual free flowing movement. Expanding, contracting, expanding….

Fascinating.

Shele and Michael.

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