SEX MYTHS EXPOSED ABOUT YOUNG WOMENS SEXUALITY

Where do I begin this “feature post”, for where is the beginning? I’ve just always known it to be there, sex, that is.

Sex, certainly is on my mind, a lot. I think about sex, I talk about sex, I write about sex; I am an active participant in the act of sex. When I reflect on this aspect, aren’t my thoughts just a perception of my experiences?

In light of this, where does it begin; more specifically, with whom does it begin?

Daddy…

How does the father/daughter relationship come into play when it comes to sex?

Permission to be sexual, on the recommendation by our fathers for when we are to be sexual, with whom we are to be sexual, thus meeting the need of his perception. Would this need for fathers to control their daughter’s sexuality, be an extension of the “protector role” that they had when their daughters were younger. i.e. taking care of their little girls.

I recall the fairytales, which I grew up with and that my daughter is attracted to today, where the princess’s in the stories were always being watched over by their fathers, then fate would intervene with the loveliness, and the princess’s would be tricked into a dangerous situation. Being unskilled in escaping from the evil, they would then be rescued by the handsome prince.

When these fairytales are taken literally in this modern world, they appear to mean that young women, are to look good, but are contentious and mentally inapt to handle life situations. The dumb blonde syndrome. Given this interpretation, they require a man to resolve their stupid errors, be responsible for them, make the decisions, and keep them supposedly safe, fabricating normality. Firstly their fathers, then their husbands. Falling angels, quietly collaborating, dutifully, their sexuality impeded by the impeccable rules of masculine ideology throughout their lives.

These same stories when told in days past, were seen symbolically and as valuable resources in relationship to understanding women’s psyche. Fortunately, there is a resurgence in this method of storytelling. Women have the opportunity to be guided into the sacred dimensions of their sexual selves, where they get to “know” themselves intimately, and mature their sexuality, empowered by awareness, with the freedom to credibly choose their own sexual experiences.

In the unconscious of every man there is a hidden feminine personality, and in that of every woman a masculine personality ~ C.G. Jung, The Archetypes of the Collective Unconsciousness.

Ying and yang, resides within us all. Yet, do we, as the individuals that we are, achieve a true balance of these contra-sexual energies, living fully as the sexual beings that our biological nature urges us to be?

Stunning young women elegantly attired in gorgeous evening gowns, “picture perfect princesses” are accompanied by tuxedo-clad men, their fathers. All, indulging their appetites with a sumptuous banquet before the formalities begin.

In front of families, friends and their local churches, these young women, some who are in primary school have pledged to protect their virginity until marriage. “Purity” Balls are a happening event. Over 1400 of these gala events, with thousands of young women in attendance, have been held across America this year.

“Purity” balls are the brainchild of the controversial abstinence movement that is sweeping America. In1996, the US Congress allocated $250 million (US) for public schooling nationwide to implement abstinence only sex education. Now, programs that are being publicly funded number over the700 figure. These programs are preaching celibacy before marriage. There is no education on “safe” sex practices.

“Chastity chics” at the moment, rate close to 15% of all young women in America. When celebrities are endorsing the philosophies of abstinence, how can any “starry” eyed young woman not be influenced? Britney Spears, is one of the stars who has given their celebrity stamp of approval, but has this particular young woman herself, fallen? Twice divorced and a rehab-regular, Britney is no shining example for the cause for purity.

Psychologist, Cary Backenger says, “No pledge can counter the fact that teenagers are sexual beings post-puberty. With this in mind, are these young women destined to emotionally struggle with the sanctimony of the abstinence philosophies, warring with the core of their own sexuality?

War?

That is precisely what these young women’s fathers are prepared to do. The ceremony at these “purity” balls include the fathers to stand and respond to the question, “Are you ready to war for your daughter’s purity?” Aloud, the father’s read, “I choose before God to cover my daughter as her authority and protection in the area of purity.” Their names are then inscribed before their daughters as witness, who in turn sign the documents themselves. Not only is the documentation proof of the pledge to chastity, the young women may display a 14 carat pearl and diamond purity ring, showing to the world that “I am in waiting.”

So, in reality what does happen when these young women who have been educated with the abstinence only philosophies succumb to their biological calling for sex?

Fall….

Over half of the young women who have pledged, have sex within three years, and more than 85% have sex before marriage. National studies into adolescent sexual health have also discovered that STD’s are significantly higher in communities with numerous purity pledgers. Pledgers are also more likely not to use condoms than non-pledgers for sexual encounters, including anal penetration.

Innocence lost through ignorance. The value of sexuality subsequently betrayed when the liberty of self-responsibility is dissolved.

TOO MANY FALLING ANGELS

Avec l’amour,

Michel.

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