EXPOSING THE SEX MYTHS

Hello everyone,

Has anyone dissected frogs in High School Biology? 

That was a god awful experience. About us feels a little invasive.  We thought that we could keep our

anonymity, but considering the content of our blog site and how we openly talk about ‘the private’

out  there in public, that anonymity seems to dissolve into cyber space.

Who are we?

For starters, we could be your neighbor. 

That certainly could make some people just a little nervous.

Seriously though, we are just two very ordinary people with the

exception of choosing to tackle a very awkward topic that is in

desperate need of being discussed openly and honestly. 

So much taboo surrounds sex that it is all but black listed from any

form of rational communication in far too many families.

Informative practical knowledge about sex and sexuality

seems to be filtered to fit into society’s perception of

acceptability.  This lack of understanding of the true

nature of sexuality poses many problems for the majority

of the population with sex myths running riot in their lives.

How has this blog come about?

That’s an easy question. 

We simply had an idea. 

Ideas are only ideas when they stay in your head, but when you action that idea you give life to a new

creation.  It’s rather exciting, really gives us something to strive for together.  It is quite an adventure 

actually. We’re getting quite efficient at abseiling  “the cliff of challenges” when we are faced with what

seems like a mountainous obstacle. 

There is nothing better for building self-esteem than rising to a challenge, it elevates one to new

personal heights and gives a different perspective to the surrounding landscape. Feels like being on top

of the world, for a brief time anyway.  Reality has a way of rapidly grounding you.  At least our creation is

soaring on the winds.

Everyone has something valuable to contribute to the community.  We chose a medium that is a vital

hub for communication between people all over the world.  It gives our voice a broader audience to

reach – the world community.

Why did we choose such a socially sensitive issue to pursue?

That’s an interesting question.  We decided to break the sex myth stranglehold and bring about sexual

liberation to ourselves as individuals, to our relationship as lovers, for our children who can have the

opportunity to grow into healthy sexual adults without the suppression of the sex myths that we once

believed in. And to our friends and acquaintances who themselves are searching for ‘the answer’

to the complexity of sex/sexuality that relates to themselves and also to their children, tweens and

teens.

Do you have any expertise in this particular field?

Expertise???

Anyone can gain expertise when they set their mind to something. For us it is more of an extension of

our lives. A huge learning curve from past experiences that we have both had before we formed a

relationship with each other.

Having worked extensively as a carer of abused children and youths in conjunction with The

Department of Families here in Australia over a ten year period, Shele has experienced the effects

from the torment of emotional suffering brought about from sexual abuse in children’s formative

years and the dysfunction and disruption to their emotional and psychological development. Shele

developed a strong bond with the children and youths that she lived with and cared for and has

developed a passion for ‘going where’ the majority dare not tread.

How many of these abused children and youths regain their own sexual identity?  Not enough,

and it goes around again and again, generation after generation.  The problems that exist in today’s

world are very much the same as the problems that existed in recent generations past, just

compounded. It is not only the abused who are stripped of their birthright. 

It is happening to anyone and everyone who is being continually exposed to sex myths,

and it is happening right now.  Sex Myths themselves don’t generally get given much thought.  Yes,

they are interesting, but that’s about it.  When you look beyond the superficial, sex myths exposes

a much deeper and dirtier secret.  

Scandalous!!!

Really.

It stirs to mind some questions –

“What is sexuality?”

“Do I really know what it is that I want?”

“Can I have what I want?”

“How do I get what I want?”

By exploring the reality, it gives you time to get away from the

impending clutches of sex myths, and maybe, just maybe,

your sexuality won’t get swallowed whole.

We can think of more pleasurable mouths that we would prefer being wrapped around us.

Who inspires you?

Anyone who embraces their life for all that it is and for all that it can be. 

Inspiration comes to us from all sorts of places. The people that we interact with, our children,

each other…  

Reading a Frankie magazine, the story of a young woman, Amy Purdy jumped out larger than

life from the pages.  The article, an intimate account of a life-changing event that Amy and her

family lived through, blew our minds.  Here she was, a fit and healthy young woman who contracted

a lethal bacterial infection in her blood that caused meningococcal meningitis.  This type of

meningitis is incredibly fatal.  Did you know that up to 75% of people who get this illness will

die from it?            

                                         This is an excerpt towards the end of her story.

“I went into shock the first time that I saw my legs.  I was speechless and disgusted – they had nuts

and bolts and the feet were made from rubber-like doll, feet but uglier!  I guess I expected to show up,

get new legs that looked normal and walk around.  I remember saying, “Those are them? You’ve got to

be kidding me!”  When I put them on they felt heavy and awkward.  I stood up for maybe 10 seconds

and they hurt.  Those 10 seconds were the most painful, discouraging 10 seconds of my life.”

Amy has since gone on to found Adaptive Action Sports in 2005 with her boyfriend Daniel Gale giving

youth and young adults who are living permanently with disabilities the opportunity for getting

involved. The most significant events that they host include the development of the first

ever Adaptive Snowboarding World Championships.  To know more, visit Amy’s foundation at

www.adacs.org

What do we hope to achieve?

Changing the world!

Well, changing one person’s perceptions at a time would be sufficient. 

One person is powerful enough, for they have the capacity to influence many and create massive

change.  Take for instance, Nelson Mendela and how he changed the perception of racial

oppression in his country and around most of the world, to that of racial freedom.

We endeavor to bring to light the unconventional.  Give society’s out-dated moral structure a s

hake up, and expose the truth behind the taboos. 

We would love for you join in on the exploration, [the more the merrier] stake claim to your own

individual sexuality and step out of society’s ominous sexual shadow.  

Shele & Michael.

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