COMMUNICATION AND EMOTIONAL REACTIVITY

CONNECT TO COMMUNICATION

Emotions get us all fired up and extremely reactive, especially when we are communicating. When we are in an extremely emotionally charged frame of mind. Communicating, especially verbal communication can get out of control and arguments arise, then no effective communication will take place. This is when a cooling off period is essential, allowing everyone an opportunity to collect their thoughts and re-connect again without the emotional reactivity.


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Michael & Shelle.

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TAGS : NEW MEDIA MARKETING. SEX, SEXUAL & SEXUALITY.

Hi all, Hhhmmn, that’s interesting! for a headline anyway.

You may, or may not, be wondering why I have put up a headline such as I just did?

Well, according to our mentors, posts, especially the headlines are to be keyword rich, and the keywords to be specific to our topic/s.

If you have noticed most of our posts contain variations of the same keywords, and so far our topic has been mainly focussed on and around Sex in some form, this will change slowly over the coming weeks, it won’t be phased out and replaced, rather it will enhanced by the addition of more topics which will allow, you , the reader, to gain an insight into what we are wanting to offer you, So, over time, the wording of the headlines will change to suit new keywords to reflect the changing topics, which will also bring to you, new ideas and information to help you keep abreast of the ever changing times.

Only today, I was given an insight into marketing from a customer’s perspective, the gist of it was to do with a simple act carried out by a ‘tradesman’ at the customer’s residence.

The act itself wasn’t one that was deliberately done to get the result it did, but to apply a little thoughtfulness and kindness to the householder, but in doing so, the end result was that the ‘trademan’ now has another 20 plus new customers to add to his data base. (All through ‘word of mouth advertising) .

The opposite has also occurred for me today, whilst trying yet again to unsuccessfully negotiate with a telephone company here in Australia over their poor cutomer service, (You guys overseas just don’t know how lucky you are with your services) .

The end result of it seems to be that we will get the raw end of the deal in the short term , but will be out of the clutches of said companys’ misleading marketing, and away from their poor service history,to some one else who will give us the service that we want. But in the longer term, the company hasn’t just lost us, but they also have lost anyone who may have asked us for a reccomendation, not only would we reccomend the new company, for the superior service, but i,m sure somewhere in the conversation will be raised the reason we no longer are with the original company.

Sorry for the ramblings today, It has been a rather stressful week for us.

As the subheading suggests, real people, real sex.

Well, we too are real people, and that being the case, we have had a few whammy’s at once, beside the happenings mentioned in a recent post ,we have had to take time out for ourselves to care for our three lil one’s, (all under 5) and ourselves as we do battle with a rash of viral influenzas’ that has knocked us down like proverbial flies.

This combination of events has placed a real strain on us both, in our various roles as parents, lovers, and business partners, and has really made us sit up and take notice of whats real in our world.

The answers we are re-discovering will be what will be the impetus to drive us further in the direction we need to go to help ourselves and you also.

We will be conducting some polls in our next few posts, so stay tuned and a big Thank you for your patience as we get this all happening for you all.

As Shele says,,,

Avec L’mour

Michael.

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LACK OF COMMUNICATION OCCURS BETWEEN ALL SEXES

HOW MEN & WOMEN COMMUNICATE, OR NOT.

A lack in communication comes about from varying factors.

One could miscommunicate that which they are relaying to another. One may not communicate at all that which they could say but do not – non communication. Even the differences in communication styles between the sexes; men and women can create misunderstandings in the message getting across.

All of these attribute to a lack in communication.

tell-me-communication Essentially, the other person does not know what we are thinking. It is up to us to get what is in our heads, out of our heads in a clear and concise manner so that it is easily understood by the other person.

When doubting whether your communication is being effective, ask.

Tips pointing the finger to ineffective communication.

The other person appears confused, as they keep repeating the same question over and over again.

Why?

You may not be giving specific and clear details to your message for it to be understood.

Solution ~ Listen, pay careful attention to what is being said to you. Get a grasp of what level of understanding the other person has.

E.g. The other person may wish to know how to build a fence. They have asked you, the expert fence builder, to guide them through the fence building process.

What you the expert think is easy to understand everyday knowledge, could still be well over the heads of someone who is entirely new to this experience.

To communicate effectively to the novice you would require to see the fence building through their eyes and communicate on that level of understanding.

Miscommunication really is easily remedied.

More to come on this at times too hot to handle emotionally reactive topic. In our next post will shall explore the connection between our emotions and the way in which we communicate. Till then,

Avec l’amour,

Shele & Michael.

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COMMUNICATION AND RELATIONSHIPS ADVICE FOR MEN AND WOMEN

COMMUNICATION: HAVING A VOICE

Welcome one and all,

Today’s topic shines the light onto an often overlooked yet vital aspect to all relationships that exist. Whether these relationships are parent/child, friends, neighbors, business/client, sexual, or any other combination of relationships, communication is the key element in all relationships.

COMMUNICATION

Communication comes in a wide variety of mediums. Body language/gestures, verbal language, signing, the written word which could be with pen onto paper, typed letters, newsletters, reports, magazines, e-mails, internet web sites, internet blogs, e-books, videos, DVD’s, telephones that are landlines, mobile, and the list goes on.

With all these forms of communication how does a lack of communication come about?

We all have a voice. Not everyone uses their voice in a clear or effective manner.

Our emotions basically govern what comes out of our mouths, or through our fingertips, or displayed in the body language and gestures that we use.

When one of these is incongruent with our behavior (how we act) it is SHOUTING OUT LOUD, something, some form of communication, is being withheld.

More communication to come, in the next few posts, on this topic in this new series, Communication.

Avec l’amour,

Shele & Michael.

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PORN & SEXY SEXUALITY

PORN LIKE YOU HAVE NEVER SEEN IT BEFORE

Whatever we desire for ourselves in life, we are the ones’ who are going to make it happen.

Porn, or is it?” your complimentary mini e-book is now available for downloading.

Something is stirring under the sheets.

Expectant…

Surprised.

Thrilled!

You will find Porn, or is it?” located in the side bar top, or www.sexmythsexposed.com

May you enjoy the read.

Avec l’amour,

Shele & Michael

Update: This e-book is no longer available.

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